Feeling as though life would be better if you could just catch a lucky break? If so, we've all been there, like an amped up granny waiting for that last square to hit on her BINGO card.
But before you start blaming the universe or your ex or your poor unsuspecting boss (okay, maybe he is partially to blame), let's take a deep breath and address the real culprit: you.
That might sound a little bit harsh, but somebody had to say it!
Now, we're not saying you're the sole reason for your funk. Life throws curveballs like a baseball-wielding monkey on Red Bull. And, sometimes, external factors absolutely deserve a share of the blame. But here's the thing: dwelling on those outside and uncontrollable forces while constantly pointing fingers is like wearing your ex's clothing. It’ll keep your mind stuck in the past and might even start smelling funky after a while.
So, how do we break free from the blame game and take back control of our own happiness? Here are a few epic tips that are way cooler than vaguebooking on social media:
1. Ditch the victim mentality
Stop saying things like "life is unfair" or "everyone else gets lucky." It might feel good in the moment, but it keeps you stuck in a negative mindset. Instead, embrace your inner superhero. You have the power to change your perspective and take control of your situation. And remember, comparison is the thief of joy.
2. Stop the blame game
Playing the blame game is like opening junk mail. It's boring, unproductive, and ultimately a waste of your precious time and energy. Not to mention the paper cuts. Focus on what you can control, which is your own attitude, actions and reactions.
3. Take responsibility for your happiness
Happiness doesn’t steam on-demand like your favorite music or TV show, although that would be pretty cool. It's something you actively cultivate. Make choices that bring you joy, surround yourself with positive people, and prioritize activities that make you feel good.
4. Forgive yourself and others
Holding onto grudges is like carrying a heavy backpack uphill. It's exhausting and unnecessary. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and forgive others for theirs. Holding onto negativity only weighs you down.
5. Celebrate the Small Wins:
Don't wait for a huge life-changing event to feel happy. Savor the little victories, like finally mastering that tricky yoga pose or making it to work on-time.
Remember, happiness is a journey, not a destination. There will be ups and downs, but by following these tips, you can navigate the journey with more joy and resilience.
If you want bonus points, check out the following journal activity.
Identifying the Blame Game:
Reflect on a recent situation where you felt unhappy or frustrated. Did you find yourself blaming external factors or people? If so, what were they?
How did blaming others make you feel? Did it help you feel better or empowered to address the situation? If not, what would you want to try doing differently the next time around?
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